Lizzo feels it's about time to shed light on her intimate life. The "Cuz I Love You" singer revealed that she didn't lose her virginity until 2020, when she was well into her 30s, thanks to a pact she made when she was younger not to engage in sexual activity until she won a Grammy. After finally earning her first award from the Recording Academy in 2020, she fulfilled her promise. "I was a late bloomer," Lizzo, 37, said in an episode of the Friends Keep Secrets podcast on March 31. "I lied about it for a long time."
"I just promised myself when I was younger that I wouldn't have sex until I won a Grammy," she added. "I'm so damn serious about it." While Lizzo (born Melissa Viviane Jefferson) clarified that "it wasn't the night of the Grammys" when she lost her virginity, she did share that it was within the same year that she won her Grammys for Best Pop Solo Performance, Best Traditional R&B Performance, and Best Urban Contemporary Album at the 2020 event.
Despite being known for advocating for sexual expression, Lizzo revealed that she felt ashamed about having sex later in life, noting how good it felt to finally get the "weight" off her chest. "I used to lie," she said, later adding, "It was so embarrassing. I was in a friend group of girls. We were all girl-talking one night and it was like, 'Wait, Lizzo are you a virgin?'"
"I said, 'I love the D.' I said that," she explained. "And it held me over for a little while." She also shared how her religious beliefs enabled her to wait before exploring that side of herself. "When we were teenagers at my church," she explained, "we all made a pact that we wouldn't do anything before marriage. And then, I was just so scared. Like, nobody wanted to kiss me."
And losing her virginity wasn't the only milestone Lizzo reached later in life: she also revealed that she didn't have her first kiss until she was 21. "It was terrible," she said of the experience. "I was actually very upset about it because it was a New Year's Eve thing and he forced it on me. I was really mad and I was like, 'My first kiss is ruined.' I was so mad."
While she didn't reveal who her firsts were with, Lizzo noted how her boyfriend Myke Wright—who has been dating the artist since 2022—has made up for her past unpleasant interactions. "I don't like tongue-kissing or swapping of spit," Lizzo admitted. "The only person I like it with is my man. I can't stand it with anyone else."
